Who would like to do that? But strangely enough we often do things that actually sabotage our efforts to become confident. We all want to build up our confidence but do you subconsciously sabotage your efforts?
Do you try to portray confidence when you actually feel weak and nimble on the inside?
You are not the only one with this problem. many people struggle with this problem for years. Know what happens when you resist something? even a thought? It persists. Next tell me when made up your mind about your confidence? What is your main reason? Do you hate being Confident? Do you dislike the idea of lack of confidence? Did you go through a bad experience due to your lack of confidence~Do you get bad time due to your low confidence}?
It is likely that you have certain blocks stopping you from becoming the confident person you deserve to be. Want to find out what these blocks are? You might believe you will never be a confident person, but this belief is not based on fact – it is simply based on your way of looking at things.
Lets check out the some of the most common blocks to self confidence.
Don’t Deserve to be confident
Difficlut to fathom but lots of people have such a problem. Consciously you say that you want to be confident yet deep down you think you don’t deserve it because you are not good enough as a person. Its the same as thinking you do not deserve to be happy. As long as this block remains, it will be very hard to reach your confidence goal.
You are afraid to be confident
Sometimes, people fear success as much as failure because of the changes it brings to their lives. It’s the same with confidence. If you become confident and begin to fulfill your goals and ambitions, it would bring a lot of change to your world. A lot of people find change to be a very scary thing.
Do you believe confidence means arrogance
Perhaps you have met people who seemed overly confident – so confident in fact that they came across as arrogant and rather obnoxious. You may worry that you will become so confident that you will forget who you really are.
You think certain people are born with a confidence gene and are ‘lucky’
You fear what others will think of the new, confident you.
Most of us care deeply what others think of us. We are often surrounded by other people who low confidence in themselves and they become our mirrors. This creates a sense of bonding, a feeling of belonging. The ones close to us always reinforce that. Becoming more confident means changing and sometimes this isn’t favored by those around us – they might be hostile to or jealous of our pursuit of confidence and fulfillment. Sometimes they may feel threatened and you may worry that you will lose some friends.
You may belive that you are very shy and you cannot be confident
Surprisingly people thing being shy means you should not be confident. In fact if you are shy overcoming your shyness should be a good reason why you want to become confident
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